Seeing the Game from the Other Side

Saturday, I had the opportunity to volunteer as a referee at our GHV Booster Club youth basketball tournament. I worked 4th and 5th grade games alongside a current player, and it was a great reminder of just how many people it takes to make youth sports happen. I’ll admit—it felt a little strange wearing the striped shirt—but being on the other side of the whistle, even for a short time, provided a valuable and eye-opening perspective.

Overall, the experience was a very positive one. It was especially meaningful to work with a couple of my own players and give them a chance to see the game from an official’s viewpoint. The vast majority of teams, coaches, and spectators were supportive, encouraging, and appreciative—exactly the environment we want for young athletes.

There was also a teachable moment along the way. In one game, consistent complaining from an assistant coach began to influence players and spectators in a negative way. It was a clear reminder of how quickly reactions and attitudes can trickle down—especially with young kids watching and learning. Addressing that moment (I eventually gave the assistant a technical which affected his participation the rest of the tournament) reinforced something important for me as a coach: our responses in challenging situations matter. Players and fans often mirror what they see from the adults leading them. It was a good reminder—and one I’ll take with me from the weekend.

Officiating is not easy, particularly at the youth level. A whistle could be blown on nearly every possession, and the goal becomes finding the balance between enforcing rules and allowing kids the chance to learn and play. Officials don’t have the benefit of replays, slow motion, or hindsight. Decisions are made in real time, with the intent of keeping the game moving and providing a positive experience. Without officials, there are no tip-offs, no schedules, no tournaments—no opportunities for kids to compete at all.

Youth tournaments are incredibly valuable, but they require the right perspective. For 4th and 5th graders, these games are about learning rules, understanding teamwork, handling adversity, and building confidence. They are opportunities to grow—we should not expect perfection from anyone. Many of the coaches at this level are parents volunteering their time, doing their best to create positive experiences for kids. Their commitment, energy, and willingness to serve deserve appreciation and gratitude and we should assume best intentions from everyone involved.

When we keep that perspective, it changes how we respond to mistakes and challenges. It encourages patience instead of frustration, and encouragement instead of criticism. It reminds us that “winning” can look like better effort, improved communication, resilience after a tough call, or a player trying something new—even if it doesn’t show up on the scoreboard.

There’s also a bigger picture to consider. Officials are needed at every level of sports, and the shortage is real. If young officials don’t feel supported, respected, and appreciated early on, they’re unlikely to continue. How we treat officials today directly impacts whether games can even happen tomorrow—at the youth level and beyond. I have definitely had moments during my high school season where I have focused too much time on officials’ calls when my team and improving their play, should be receiving most of my attention.

Volunteering on Saturday reinforced something I strongly believe: youth sports work best when everyone understands and respects their role. Coaches, players, parents, and officials all share responsibility in creating an environment where kids can learn, grow, and enjoy the game. No one remembers a youth team’s record down the road but we do recognize growth in sport skills and social/emotional skills which is really what matters.

I am so thankful for all of the people (coaches, officials, parents, spectators) who sacrifice so much time and effort to support and attend youth activities, which are invaluable to youth athletes. When we all keep the focus on growth, learning, and respect, the experience becomes better for everyone involved. And that’s a victory worth celebrating—no matter what the final score says!

Have a great week!

Coach K